I genuinely feel like no matter what I do, psychopaths can always pretty much immediately defect me as the perfect victim.
I think it’s partly because I’m ugly, partly because I’m sensitive, and they can just tell I’m a weak person.
It’s making my life a living hell, no matter how hard I try I just can’t blend it, I can’t force myself to act a certain way, it’s exhausting to me
Help…
I wish I could remember where I read it, but I do remember reading either an article or paper that laid out that when people are victimized, other abusers tend to be able to spot that somehow. Something about body language and it’s all subconscious.
I don’t have the answer here except to just build a shell and be a dick for a while, but I do want to say I am genuinely sorry you have to deal with that. Always being the victim or always putting on a mask is fucking exhausting and soul draining.
Prolly mostly body language and/or pheromones. Both massive channels of communication that everyone understands on some level but not so many think about consciously.
Also, it seems to me that traumatized people are more likely to belong to certain scenes than non traumatized folk. People pick up on that, even if they don’t realize they do.
We’re now interacting online, for example, in the fediverse. I’d be willing to bet we’re all more likely to have suffered social trauma than the general population is. I know I have.