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Cake day: June 19th, 2023

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  • Well, I am charming as fuck lol. Maybe.

    Bad joke aside, from what I’ve seen it’s more about how they disagree more than the fact of. Don’t get me wrong, there’s a fundamental personality issue going on there, and he can be difficult. I just haven’t seen much in the way of arbitrary bans just for holding different beliefs. There is a lower threshold for, shall we say, aggressive disagreements though.

    Mind you, I don’t haunt the mod logs and track down every occurrence. Just taking a general sense of things over the years.










  • You’ve got it backwards.

    What happens is that the orgasm occurs and then the heart rate drops.

    If you’re suffering bradycardia from an event of some kind, then you aren’t likely to become aroused, much less have an orgasm. Can’t say it’s impossible, particularly with some of the odd reactions meds can cause, but it’s highly unlikely with any of the typical causes of a slow heart rate that one would be said to “suffer”.

    Mind you, a non emergent low heart rate isn’t a barrier to orgasm, but I don’t think you were asking about normative ranges, or when the pulse is just low from a non important cause (say, post meditation).

    Typically, a bradycardic orgasm is referring to what happens in the body post orgasm, though the name obviously implies otherwise. It can start during orgasm, since it’s not exactly prohibitive, but that’s less common that it starting after.

    Orgasm causes multiple cascades of body and brain reactions. One possible outcome of that is a deep relaxation that’s actually akin to a meditative state, or like some stages of sleep.

    That post orgasm relaxation usually doesn’t drop heart rate low enough to be called brachycardia, but the basic mechanism is the same. Hell, it’s not even that rare compared to stuff like sneezing fits, or difficult to control emotional outbursts. All kinds of weird shit can happen post nut. Nose bleeds, hallucinations, temporary paralysis etc.

    Bradycardic orgasm isn’t dangerous by itself. If accompanied by other symptoms, it can be. The two big ones would be dizziness/disorientation and chest pains. The chest pain might be a sign of other cardiac issues, and would need to be checked out immediately until and unless a cardiologist gives the all clear to ignore it.

    Dizziness, by itself is only a concern if it doesn’t fade quickly, or it comes with enough disorientation to make the person prone to trying to get up and move around before things settle back to norm.

    If it causes fainting, then that’s something that needs an immediate trip to a medical facility to be safe.


  • Only one I’ve found bearable in a post-Swype world is heliboard.

    Two caveats. First, that you have to do extra work to enable glide typing. It isn’t difficult, but it’s not something you would automatically think to do.

    Second, that it’s suggestions are kinda crap lol. It’s good at picking up the glide input, but the suggestions it pulls up when it doesn’t are sometimes batshit lol.

    Coming from Swype, it’s not exactly great. But it’s on par with gboard in most ways




  • Wrong is such a loaded term. And the text of your post shows why. It’s linking “wrong” with a specific set of traits. Then, there’s the follow up question that’s kinda fucking weird, but that’s a different issue.

    So, for something to be “wrong” it has to violate some set of standards that set limits on “right”

    And there is no single, universal consensus on the obligations of an adult child to their parents. It’s all situational. Abuse would only be one factor in trying to determine wrongness. Same with it being unforgivable or not. Cold would be about the Indian internal emotional state and is separate from the other two.

    So, here’s what it comes down to. If the choice is made in a vacuum, fully on the basis of the convenience of the child of the dying person, you’d be pushing into a wrong by most moral and ethical systems. But if there’s other reasons, it can push things back into being acceptable.

    I personally don’t hold that being “bedside” for a death is inherently a good act. It can be worse for everyone involved. The same is true for the concept of a final goodbye. It isn’t inherently of benefit to anyone. It can be. And, very often, it ends up being the wise decision because you only get one chance at it. But it absolutely isn’t inherently right, the way something like feeding a starving person is likely to be. It’s a choice. One that has to be weighed situationally.

    I still tend to say that for most people, that final visit is likely to be more beneficial than negative, even though it can be traumatic. That’s even true when abuse is a factor. Closure has become a bit of a trope, but it really is a net positive. Part of death is that it can be difficult to really accept the fact of it if it happens “off screen”.

    Being there, seeing the reality of it adds weight to the fact of the death that makes it real, even if it isn’t for the final moments of death.

    Now, celebrating death? I tend to think that if someone is celebrating the death of a parent, there’s a significant reason. Usually either that the parent was fucking horrible, or that the child is. Celebrating death can be more neutral in theory, but in practice it’s never a good look.

    Fwiw, I’ve been bedside at deaths. More than I should have. It hasn’t been my parents yet, but some close family. A lot of patients as well. I can’t say I regret any of them I was there for. But I regret not having been there for some that I missed.