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Cake day: June 4th, 2025

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  • From personal experience knowing someone who posted that stuff just to get a reaction out of people: he was beat by his dad (who then divorced his mom because she produced “that”) and was severely bullied in high school. It’s not an excuse, he just desperately wanted the world to feel as miserable as he did.

    He showed me a video of someone being shot in the head once. Mind you, I’m the kind of person that breaks down when I accidentally run over an animal or hear a bird splat on a high-rise window. He thought it was okay to show me without my consent because the guy lived, but didn’t understand that violence, pain, and disfigurement are just as traumatizing as death.

    He diagnosed himself with Anti-social PD while taking a psychology class, take that however you wish








  • I can’t meditate in the way that everyone describes. I have a similar combination of brain traits, so I’ll share what helps me. One small caveat, I also have c-ptsd and my experience is that even my choice for meditation analog isn’t going to be helpful until you’re able to use therapeutic skills to protect yourself (like acknowledgment and redirection).

    I have been told this counts as a “ritual” which might give you a keyword to find something for yourself that you’d prefer. But what I do is I make tea or coffee in a methodical and intentional way. Everything from choosing my beans, tea or herbal ingredients to the method of brewing gives me a chance to center myself and work out things that may be troubling me. I use a hand grinder and gooseneck kettle to make pour-over coffee. I harvest my own herbs or put together my own blend for tea and use a blooming pot. It’s very sense-driven but routine, which is important for my ADHD and autism to sit happily together for a few minutes.

    Some people go for a run and find that meditative, I can see it because I feel similarly when I go for a hike to collect plant specimens. Really, with ADHD you may find that getting your body senses involved (yes even with primary inattentive) helps your brain loosen up and hit that meditative point. I don’t think I’ve ever had a silent brain, and I think that’s a sticking point for a lot of people when it comes to meditation. You can still have the benefits with a loud brain :)



  • My grandmother fully believed in sasquatch as a species, with subspecies in various environments. The ones where she grew up in the northeast were apparently larger, less hairy and more fat than the ones in the swamps where I grew up. To this day I still think she had just seen hunters, but she knew what she saw lol