Haha nice bait, which I took to get some actually interesting statistics, well executed !

Here is your comment, you deserve it. Now your post made it to “average”! You’re welcome.

(Was there any correlation between upvote count and the comment-based metrics? That could also be pretty interesting)

Seymour :'(

A beautiful answer, our trajectory was pretty similar, only that we were together and building it for over 10 years before we finally got married last year :)

My wife is my home, my constant, my safe harbor, the anchor of my sanity and peace of mind.

Two planets orbiting each other - I could not have said it better. We’re a unit that is greater than its sum and we grew and continue to grow together as individuals and into each other.

I feel you. Do you have access to meds? At least for me, they do help a LOT to actually put that whole “strategy” into action, more or less, and not feel completely drained… Without meds the inner emotional resistance is pretty high so I can see how this my suggestion can sound like useless “theory” :/

Yeah it’s an artificial dichotomy based on a popular misconception of what std::endl is and how \n is interpreted.

Ultimately it does not ask about line endings, but about flushing, which is a completely orthogonal question.

Nice bud. Home grown?

Haha absolutely, I’m also one of the people who always said all this rainbow and green washing is bullshit. As if they ever cared for anything.

Capitalism has no values, except for one: shareholder value. Yesterday they help sending people to concentration camps, today they help saving the world and increasing diversity, yeah, totally convincing.

There is one thing to rely on with capitalism - if you convince people you can make good money with it or it is good for the brand, they will jump onto it and squeeze the shit out of it. An abstract, amoral force, made from a large number of concrete shitty people.

“Learn to accept what you cannot change and do not waste emotional energy on it”

The CBT self-help book I once randomly bought turned out to be pretty useful, even though I just quickly binge-read it and did almost none of the exercises.

Personal development and growth (ADHD edition, with new exciting difficulty levels and challenges)

Nice metaphor that I have not heard before !

Yeah exactly, the upside is, at least for some of us, that we still feel we overall can somehow keep up and can do pretty well, sometimes exceptionally so, even though everything feels like a chaotic struggle or failure.

Haha nice observation, I’m pretty good with sorting the tickets for the weekly sprints at work, but I never connected the dots or consciously applied similar techniques in private life.

I guess I do kind of agile prints that are not measured in a fixed unit of time, but in natural hyperfocus waves…

Yeah can relate, it’s always nice if I can reach some milestone when switching the project hyperfocus again. Celebrating any tangible progress helps staying motivated. Small steps are nice, and each big step is a gift.

I wanted to review all rooms and get rid of stuff that I don’t need (like gadgets or old clothes or random household things). Well, I did a room and the basement. Some more to go. I planned this for this year, so I just wait for the motivation to come back to do the next room. Because reviewing a whole room and possibly rearranging half of the things and sorting stuff out takes at least half a day and is pretty exhausting.

That’s exactly it. Help each other heal and grow.

Just need to find the puzzle piece that fits, and then two half broken pieces can grow into a strong unit.

Just needs empathy, respect and good communication. It’s work, but it’s possible if both sides are genuinely interested in making it work. Just do not be a self-centered asshole and don’t have such a person as a partner.

It seems like so many relationships these days are shallow decoration. If you can’t talk to your partner about everything and you are not at least best friends, why the fuck even bother ? If it’s not the person you can trust your life with, it’s not your partner, but a fuck buddy. Some people seem to have some misunderstanding here what a serious relationship is, or do not even want such a thing.

Nice! I’d love to use Rust at work, I was a Haskell guy for hobby things, rather recently switched to Rust for that, and I enjoy it a lot. Taking 80% of the good lessons from functional programming while staying performant and practical and just have nice tooling - whoever designed Rust are wise people who know what is important for happy developers.

My job is mainly C++, and if you have seen the bright side of life, it is difficult not to be frustrated by the language and tooling. I think C++ without clang-tidy is almost as horrible as Python without types and linters. Undefined behavior and foot guns everywhere!

Python with type hints and mypy and ruff = <3

Large Python codebase without types = nightmare