AVOID #1!!!
Better to be alone and free to think and explore than to be tethered to someone that holds you back from exploring life. Sex is a fucked up drug addiction without an opt out for most of us. I’ve made a lot of effed up decisions, but not marrying any of my 3 long terms was not one of them.
I don’t know about y’all, but I changed a whole lot every 5 years since 20. I feel more settled in my late 30’s Getting disabled at 29 shakes my perspective away from any kind of norm. I can’t imagine those changes meshing with anyone else and surviving this long.
As a guy nearing 60 I support your stance.
The choice is not these two women. The choice is how to live your own life.
I’m about 3 or 4 option #2s behind you but I agree. Glad to see older anons still with it.
#2 is because anyone who feels this way is also a mentally ill, bpd with daddy issues
#1 won’t have any interest in you.
Option #3:
Same as option #2, but replace BPD with autism, and less mental health issues once she figures out she doesn’t need to pretend to be normal.
My wife: 1+2=3
Number 2 sounds like a good friend but not a good wife.
Nope. I married a bpd woman when I was young and she eventually turned on everyone in her life. Not saying people with bpd don’t deserve treatment and sympathy but interacting with someone with untreated bpd is exhausting, traumatic, and not worth it.
Yeah that doesn’t sound like a good wife to me