Sounds like Debbie may be getting a call from HR soon…
Damn fun police!
Are zipties or handcuffs sufficient?
Only if your sub is cool with it, but they need to know going in that either option is likely to chafe and dig into the sensitive skin around their wrists, possibly even causing bleeding depending on how much they strain against them. Definitely not recommended for a first time if you don’t know what your own responses to stimuli are likely to be.
Much better to use a soft hemp rope, around a quarter inch thick or more, and make sure you’re binding with safe knots. You can’t just go in with any old naval knot or whatever; there are specific bindings that are safe for use on people; look them up. Always check your bindings to ensure a safe amount of slack (you should be able to easily slide a finger around any part of the wrist or ankle for proper circulation) and always make sure you have a set of EMT clothing shears handy in case something goes wrong. No, kitchen scissors are not good enough; EMT shears have serration, and specially shaped blades, in order to cut through heavy fabric or bindings easily.
Also please don’t use duct tape, there’s literally no way to have it bind but also have sufficient slack. You will impede circulation. Just a terrible idea.
There are padded, even fuzzy, handcuffs. Zip ties are never going to be comfortable. The sign doesn’t say anything about consent, though. It merely specifies “must.”
It’s not my bag, baby, so I know very little about that subculture… but FWIW “only if your sub is cool with it” should be a universally understood given, right? In the “goes without saying” way.
It should go without saying, but unfortunately there’s a lot in the kink space that should go without saying, but still has to be said, over and and over, because a lot of people come into the scene via entry points like 50 Shades that are almost antithetical to the idea of safe consensual kink.
Also, fair warning, the “padding” on most padded cuffs won’t do shit to stop them from digging in. Fabric compresses against metal, with the result that you still have an unyielding and relatively small point of contact. A good safe bondage knot will spread the point of restraint across several inches of skin, so the pressure at any one point is minimal.
Shibari You Can Use has some excellent guides to safe restraint, if you want to learn more.
Shibari You Can Use has some excellent guides to safe restraint, if you want to learn more.
Ha, thanks. But no. I’m neither a sadist, nor a masochist; hurting or being hurt is the biggest turn-off for me.
To each their own.
Tying and/or being tied up in itself has nothing to do with pain.
Yep. And this, right here, is a perfect example of “things that should go without saying still need to be said.”
People should know that bondage and sado-masochism are not the same thing, and yet so many don’t.
Or does there need to be a metal bikini and giant slug involved?
Tentacles. There need to be tentacles.
Tools! I need my tools!
IT’S FETISH SHIT! I LIKE TO BIND AND BE BOUND!!!
So, a man with long hair doesn’t need to be tied up (neither the man nor his hair).
A good friend liked to go to these kind of rhetorical legal battles with the school and the dress code. It was hilarious. She used neon green hair for three months due to a weird wording on some rule or another about colored hair. Then they would change it to something more restrictive but she would find the loopholes and challenge them again. She once got us to loan her our watches and wore over 20 wrist watches due to a stupid rule about bracelets. Wore all sorts of ridiculous clothes colors and patterns, and queues, horns and bunny ears. Went as a clown when they tried to regulate makeup. After two years of madness the school board called her to negotiate a truce. They removed the ancillary dress code, uniform was still mandatory but anything beyond the basic four pieces of clothing students would be free as long as it wasn’t nudity or disrupted other students. Skirts were made optional, the origin of the whole conflict. In return she was just asked to stop trying to give the poor principal a heart attack (an old conservative religious hag).
She still wore colorful stuff and accessories after that. But at least she wasn’t in heated arguments during detention everyday anymore. She wanted to abolish uniform altogether but in a way she sort of won.
Your friend sounds like an awesome person to hang out with.
Maybe I’m just dumb but what does queue mean here? I thought it was like a line for people to wait in
Oops, sorry. Not a native English speaker. Braids, rows, queues? I’m not sure which one is the correct word now. It was an extravagant haircut with lots of braids queued on the back.
Also not native, but I don’t think you can’t use the word queue or line for hair. You can use braids, you can use tail or you can say tied back.
I get it though cause in Italian we too have the same word for line of people and hair tail (coda)
yes daddy
Debbie*
Kinky
Just settled all my lawsuits, fuck-you, Debbie!
Now this is a president I’d vote for.
Ps~thank you debbie~
I have long hair, but thankfully this is not applicable as I am a man.
Who said guys couldn’t be tired up.😉😉
The sign, but i’m listening😏
Look, I don’t make the rules.
Just the signs 😉
Damn Debbie.
Me, who hasn’t cut my hair in very close to a decade now: can boys be included too? 🥺👉👈
Me neither! It reaches from my nostrils down past my lips.
The old nosetache!
O. O dear.
