I want to work on complimenting other men more! Specifically my goal is to compliment people on things they clearly worked hard on or put in effort, cause it sucks if you work super hard or care about something and then don’t feel like anyone notices.

So I’m going to try and compliment people who:

Have really well done and unique tattoos

Are older but super athletic (It’s harder and more thankless, since when you’re young and athletic you’re usually in sports and get lots of praise. At least that was my experience)

Have super sharp outfits

Have really nice shoes (nice shoes are expensive and keeping them clean is legit hard)

what are other good compliments we should give each other?

EDIT: Oh and I still remember when I got a compliment on what I was getting while grocery shopping. So if I see like real good food in there I’ll try to throw out a “looks like you’re cooking up some good stuff”

  • Kimdracula@sh.itjust.works
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    2 months ago

    I honestly don’t like to receive compliments from dudes. Here nobody does that. From a girl is different and has “value” too bad I’m invisible to them but from a dude is just weird.

    • silly goose meekah@lemmy.world
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      2 months ago

      I think that’s a you issue though. Recently a dude complimented my moustache (I grew it out for a while and put a bunch of effort into making it curly) and that felt awesome.

      • Kimdracula@sh.itjust.works
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        2 months ago

        How’s that a me issue? I’m not the one complimenting guys. The only right compliment from a man that feels right is from your father.

        • silly goose meekah@lemmy.world
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          2 months ago

          I think it’s a you issue because you think giving compliments from man to man is weird. What exactly is your issue with it? Are you afraid it makes you look gay or something? For example, if I’m wearing a shirt of a band I like, and another dude compliments it, why would that not make me feel good? Feeling seen is a human need I think, it gives a sense of belonging.

          • tobogganablaze@lemmus.orgEnglish
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            2 months ago

            For example, if I’m wearing a shirt of a band I like, and another dude compliments it, why would that not make me feel good?

            I’d say it depends on how you compliment it exactly. If you say “That’s a nice shirt”, that’s basically saying you have good taste. I see no issue with that.

            But if you’d say “You look nice in that shirt”, that would be weird and I’d assume you’re coming on to me.

            • Kimdracula@sh.itjust.works
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              2 months ago

              Ok not but that’s different. The guy is complimenting “the shirt or the band that appeals to him” not you.