• kipo@lemm.ee
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    11 hours ago

    It’s not virtue signaling. The language the other person used is what the republicans constantly say when they are describing trans women because they don’t believe trans women are women, and it’s used to take away the rights of trans people, and it’s working.

    There are plenty of ways to say that she isn’t cis and doesn’t have a uterus while being respectful – like I just did.

    I’m as left as they come, but the virtue signaling you just did is why so many people get so turned off by so much rhetoric of our political side.

    I think you want the trans community and its allies to not confront you on dangerous rhetoric then, while they constantly have to fight people on the left and right to keep from having their rights stripped away.

    Being an ally means being open to learning when we make mistakes, and the language the other person used wasn’t appropriate. I hope you and others here can understand why.

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      It was just plain virtue signaling. This comment you made isn’t quite as plain, but it still isn’t helpful.

      The difference is, in the first comment you just left it as, “not allowed here”, which is just signaling your virtue, and more importantly, not correcting or helping in any way. I implore you to explain why someone’s verbiage is wrong, not just shut people down with no explanation. Even in this comment, you didn’t offer an alternative for “biological male”, so the person you originally addressed likely will write you off, and keep saying it.

      Your approach is just ineffective.

      Educate, don’t berate.

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        6 hours ago

        Cis male doesn’t work? Or trans woman to go back to your original point.

        Seriously, who’s berating who here?

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        7 hours ago

        Even in this comment, you didn’t offer an alternative for “biological male”

        I absolutely did: “trans woman”.

        I was educating. It’s 2024 and trans people are dying and having their basic human rights taken away, due in part to the pervasive rhetoric I originally called out. I expect better of people, and transphobic comments on lemmy are not welcome and break the rule of civility in the lemmy.world news community.

        Also, you’re telling me - a trans person - that they are virtue signaling about trans issues.