I remember being confused about why “slut” was an insult as a teen. My line of thought, as someone that wanted to have sex with women, was that women that liked sex sounded more fun.
I understand now it’s insecurity. Guys feeling threatened by a woman having experience with other guys because they know they don’t put much effort in to even understanding how to pleasure a woman but want to assume they are amazing in bed anyways. Insecurity on its own is ok, but the way they handle it is fucking pathetic.
It’s the same mindset that gives them an ego boost from cheating but then getting paranoid or even outraged when they realize their partner could be doing the same to them. It’s hilarious sometimes watching cheaters react to actually getting cheated on, too.
Isn’t the fact that no man would want the so-called slut a benefit to other straight women? Or at least, something neutral? Why would they feel anger or repulsion over this?
My thought is that the woman doing the insulting is insecure because she thinks the so-called slut attracts a lot of attention, or would “cause” her man to cheat or break up with her.
Of course, I don’t see that as the right way to look at things, but I think it’s quite ingrained in conservative culture.
Yeah, though that’s also getting into the question of “why does this person want to insult the other person?” which is a bit different from “why did they pick that particular insult?”.
Though I should also mention that the insult might have just been chosen because the insulter thought it would be effective and doesn’t actually see anything wrong with it themselves. Or they use it because they know it’s effective against them and project based on that. There’s probably some people that use it as just a general insult but don’t understand it any deeper than that. These can apply to any insult though.
It is a completely toxic and stupid culture, and those who fight for even LESS education on the matter just make it worse. Ignorance isn’t even bliss. lol
I remember being confused about why “slut” was an insult as a teen. My line of thought, as someone that wanted to have sex with women, was that women that liked sex sounded more fun.
I understand now it’s insecurity. Guys feeling threatened by a woman having experience with other guys because they know they don’t put much effort in to even understanding how to pleasure a woman but want to assume they are amazing in bed anyways. Insecurity on its own is ok, but the way they handle it is fucking pathetic.
It’s the same mindset that gives them an ego boost from cheating but then getting paranoid or even outraged when they realize their partner could be doing the same to them. It’s hilarious sometimes watching cheaters react to actually getting cheated on, too.
But I digress.
But what about when women use it as an insult?
I think it’s the same root, just the subtext is “no man will want you” instead of “I don’t want you”. Or for lesbians, the exact same insecurity.
Thanks for the answer.
Isn’t the fact that no man would want the so-called slut a benefit to other straight women? Or at least, something neutral? Why would they feel anger or repulsion over this?
My thought is that the woman doing the insulting is insecure because she thinks the so-called slut attracts a lot of attention, or would “cause” her man to cheat or break up with her.
Of course, I don’t see that as the right way to look at things, but I think it’s quite ingrained in conservative culture.
Yeah, though that’s also getting into the question of “why does this person want to insult the other person?” which is a bit different from “why did they pick that particular insult?”.
Though I should also mention that the insult might have just been chosen because the insulter thought it would be effective and doesn’t actually see anything wrong with it themselves. Or they use it because they know it’s effective against them and project based on that. There’s probably some people that use it as just a general insult but don’t understand it any deeper than that. These can apply to any insult though.
It is a completely toxic and stupid culture, and those who fight for even LESS education on the matter just make it worse. Ignorance isn’t even bliss. lol